“…and again I say, ‘Rejoice!’” (Apostle Paul, Letter to the
Philippians 4:4)
I mentioned earlier how I have
tried to teach my grandchildren about choosing to be happy. My oldest grandson,
Andrew, became interested in Tae Kwon Do from about age six. I can see how the
discipline of the sport has helped to build character, self-control and growth
toward healthy self-confidence among other good things.
At age eight Andrew has earned his
red belt and has been making progress toward completing the requirements for
his black belt. We have enjoyed attending some of the testing ceremonies as he would
advance to a new belt. It has been amazing to see this seven or eight year old
kid as he completed the complex forms and movements and then would break
through the reusable plastic boards that can be as tough as wood, but save the
expense and environmental impact of wasting so many trees. (Not to mention the
wonderful avoidance of having to dig splinters from the kids’ hands and feet!)
Recently, we
accompanied my oldest son, Andrew’s dad, and his family to New Orleans for his
graduation from seminary where he was receiving his master’s degree. On the
morning of the day before graduation, we decided to enjoy walking along the
streets of the French Quarter. Andrew, however, was having a particularly difficult
day and needed an attitude check. He was making life pretty miserable for
everyone. Andrew and I walked together on the narrow sidewalk, ahead of the
group as we neared the restaurant where we planned to have lunch. I place my
hand on his shoulder and leaned down to say. “You’re having a pretty bad day
already, aren’t you?”
“Yep.”
“Well, I just want you know that
I’m going to find a way to break through that bad attitude. I’m going to break
right through it, like you break through one of your Tae Kwon Do boards,” I
boasted.
“Well,” he responded, “Don’t expect to get a new belt today.”
I immediately lost all control and
laughed out loud. “That was an absolutely great comeback, Andrew!” I said. “I
don’t think I could have thought of a better response to that and certainly not
that fast. After all,” I continued, “it is not a matter of me fixing your bad
attitude. It is a matter of YOU deciding how YOU will respond—even when the
world is not operating 100% the way YOU think it ought to go.”
In a few minutes we were seated in
the restaurant, and he was doing better after getting some good food in his
belly and cooling off in the air conditioned dining room. I pulled him aside
and asked how he felt.
“Almost there,” was his reply as he
smiled sheepishly.
I asked if I could share our
conversation with the rest of the family.
“Not yet,” he said, but then later
he said it would be ok if he were not present. So I do have permission to write
this record. I did not exactly break through his bad attitude that morning, but
at least I got a good story from it!
Hint to the Leader:
Happy workers are always more productive. You can’t fix
other individuals’ bad attitude, but you can do something about your own. You
can set the pace for others by showing up every day with a determination to kindle
a fire of joy, regardless of the circumstances. Don’t fake it. Find things to laugh
about… even if it is at your own expense.
Hint to the Follower:
Even when the world is not operating 100% in agreement with
how you think it ought to be, you still have a choice. You can choose to have a
good attitude in spite of it all.
Having trouble finding something to
rejoice about? The Apostle Paul reported, “Five times I received… the forty
lashes less one. Three times I was beaten with rods. Once I was stoned. Three
times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I was adrift at sea; on frequent
journeys, in danger from rivers, danger from robbers, danger from my own
people, danger from Gentiles, danger in the city, danger in the wilderness, danger
at sea, danger from false brothers; in toil and hardship, through many a
sleepless night, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure…
At Damascus, the governor under King Aretas was guarding the city of Damascus
in order to seize me, but I was let down in a basket through a window in the
wall and escaped his hands.” (2 Corinthians 11:23-33) In spite of all that, this same person wrote
to his friends in Philippi from prison while in chains, “REJOICE! ...and again,
I say, REJOICE!” You really do have a
choice!
© Copyright Dr. Larry
Gay, July 2014
"Lessons on Leadership and Followership"